Special someone you met online, in a club or through mutual friends. Both are single, attract ... and the next logical step is obvious: the first date.But alas, you can not help it: the very idea makes you nervous. And if you think you're not as pretty as the pictures you sent by email? If the conversation does not flow? If not it not half as attractive when you meet him at night? Never mind. Take it as an opportunity to have some fun.Mentalízate thinking that it's okay if you're a little tense or not sure what to say. Think it can happen the same. If you do not give too much importance, the tension will dissolve by itself.Where to go on a first date• Better take the initiative yourself, to make sure you're in a place you know and where you feel comfortable. Forget about going to an area or a place where you've never been or suppose you drive for hours. Do not add more stress than necessary.• Find a busy place, but also make sure that there is too much noise, small children or any hindrance to the conversation.• Set the date for the day. They can be for breakfast, to share brunch, lunch or a mid-afternoon coffee.• In principle, ensures that the first date does not last too long. Set a time to look or say you have another commitment later. This way you can easily leave if you do not feel at ease. But if you make the appointment with him at night can be more difficult to force the dismissal.• For your peace and safety, inform a friend or relative of the time and place where you have an appointment with him. Even ask him to make a call to an agreed time lost, for if you need to "rescue".How to make a good impression• First impressions are very important, especially if you met online and is the first time they meet face to face. One trick that works is to walk with your back straight, breathe deeply and smile. Appears security but inside you feel nervous, and gradually will achieve calm.• Do not be pending only of yourself. In fact, do not get obsessed with your behavior, as this will only serve to make you feel awkward. Look at your friend. How you dress, how to greet, how is your body language? There are psychological studies that ensure that up to 90% of communication is non-verbal. His behavior will give you hints on how. Trust your intuition.• Assume that the first 10 minutes probably be somewhat tense. But, if you really were feeling prior to the event, so there will be in the moment of truth. The conversation will soon flow.• Once you're calm, focus on having fun and enjoying the conversation. Try to be yourself, but do not be too demanding. Remember that you are learning and not good judgment. Do not let your prejudices or your excuses ruin a potential relationship. If he gets you, play with your gestures seduce.To talk about on a first date• When two people are still not well understood, we must try to talk about topics that both can get involved. Mutual friends, favorite countries, musical tastes, funny stories ...• If you feel comfortable and confident, you can go to talk about intimate things. But avoid show negative or complain about your job. Fewer still, talk about your breakups. Your date is not interested in your ex boyfriends, but you.• Make sure that the conversation be balanced and that none of the two used to obtain the information from the other. This is a terrible strategy to create a link. Rather encourage the opposite: distrust and lack of attraction.• The moment of departure can also be very tense. Do it as naturally as possible and aware that it is a somewhat forced. You do not have to explain. Simply, at the appointed time or when you say that you see fit to leave.• If you want to see him, tell him ... or at least insinúalo. If not, say goodbye with a polite but clear, as "it was a pleasure" or "Thanks for the coffee." And walk away with grace and a smile.
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