How and when to take the lead with a man

Question: I have a coworker who I love. We are on the same floor, but in different offices. I often find him in the elevator or in the snack machine and always chatted for a few minutes. I hear he's single, and would love to invite you to leave but afraid I reject. Since no girlfriend should not be the one to take the initiative?Answer: In matters of love, there is no "should" or immutable rules. It is true that most women prefer he be who takes the initiative. The men are "hunters" by nature and like to face challenges. Moreover, when it is he who wants to date you you make sure you are interested in you. In short, if he takes the first step we feel safer and also flattered.Furthermore, it is assumed that this is "the right thing". That "not right" that a lady asked her out to a gentleman, because it indicates that it is "easy" or promiscuous.But is that what men think when a woman is interested in them?It depends .... From her attitude. There are women that address men because they're lonely and looking for company. Or because they have low self esteem and need to see the desire in the eyes of a man to feel valuable. Many men accept this game. Maybe because they do, too.But beware: they have a very fine instinct to tell when a woman is eager to address them, or desperate, or that they are using (for sex, have someone accompany you to a social event or someone to go the movies). Therefore, not taken seriously and respect the woman who does not respect herself.However, that does not mean at all that a woman can not take the lead with a man. If you feel sure of yourself, know what you want, you want to enjoy and meet someone special, you're cheerful and smart ... he'll love you broach.Yes, still does not know you well enough to know how you are, but those qualities are transmitted through the eyes, body language, attitude. And if you're well, he'll look like an attractive woman and feel very flattered that you've noticed him. Remember that there is nothing sexier than someone who knows what he wants. And that for males can be very relaxing to be loved rather than the ones who always face uncertainty and possible rejection.Of course, be smart and abórdale in a fun and subtle. We will follow suit ... Men love to play! And if not, well ... do not take it personally. Maybe you have a girlfriend or has just come out of a relationship. Maybe he's focused on his job right now, or about to make a long journey. And even if you're not his type ... so what? The important thing is you do not run regretting what might have happened if you had jumped social convention and dared to approach him.Some ways to ask out a man could be:· When coincidas with him in the snack machine tell someone invited you to a concert or a movie there'm excited to see you, and if you want to join you after work.· If you're in a bar with your friends and you like someone sitting at another table, look at him often. Spend the looks of a smile or a wink. That should be enough.· If you know only by Facebook, send a private message appears telling you an interesting person and I love to have coffee with him someday.· If you are part of the same group of friends, looking for the chance to be alone with him or see you without the rest of the gang. Tell you had really wanted to know more about it ...· When you see often but do not share social life (the waiter in your favorite coffee, a neighbor, someone from the office next door) must be ingenious. How about a note in your mailbox or on the windshield of your car inviting him to call for coffee? Just make sure you know who you are or what will take for the gesture of a psychopath.